Gide to True way of Living continued.. Part – 6

Gide to True way of Living continued…………

In family life , the question as to how the daily expenses are to be met always requires the utmost care. Every member must work heard like the diligent ants and busy bees. No one must rely upon the industry of others, or expect their charity.

On the other hand , a man must not consider what he has earned as totally his own. Some of it must be shared with others, some of it must be saved for an emergency, some of it must be set aside for the needs of the community and the nation, and some of it must be devoted to the need of the religious teachers.

One should always remember that nothing in the world can strictly be called ” mine “. What comes to a person comes to him because of combination of causes and conditions ; it can be kept by him only temporarily and, therefore , he must not use it selfishly or for unworthy purposes.

When Shamawathie , the queen-consort of King Udayana , offered Ananda Thero five hundred garments , Ananda Thero received them with great satisfaction.

The king hearing of it , suspected Ananda Thero of dishonesty , so he went to Ananda Thero & asked what he was going to do with five hundred garments.

Ananda Thero replied : ” Oh, King , many of the brothers are in rags; I am going to distribute the garment among the brothers . ”
” What will you do with the old garments?”
“We will make bed -covers out of them”.
“What will you do with the old bed-covers?”
“We will make pillow- cases”.
“What will you do with the old pillow-cases?.”
“We will make floor -covers out of them”.
“What will you do with the old floor-covers?”.
“We will use them for foot -towels”.
“What will you do with the old foot -towels?”.
“We will use them for floor -mops”.
“What will you do with the old mops?”.
“Your Highness, we will tear them into pieces , mix them with mud and use the mud to plaster the house walls.”

Every article entrusted to us must be used with good care in some useful way, because it is not ” ours ” but is only entrusted to us temporarily.


Gide to True way of Living – Part 5

Gide to True way of Living
Part 5

It would be impossible for a son to repay his parents for their gracious kindness, even if he could carry his father on his right shoulder and his mother on his left for one hundred long years.

And if he could bathe the bodies of his parents in sweet-smelling ointments for a hundred years, serve as an ideal son, gain a throne for them, and give all the luxuries of the world, still he would not be able to repay them sufficiently for the great indebtedness of gratitude he owes to them.

But if he leads his parents to Buddha and explains the Buddha’s teachings to them, and persuades them to give up a wrong course and follow a right one , leading them to give up all greed and enjoy the practice of offering , then he will be more than repaying them.

Buddha’s blessing abides in the home where parents are held in respect and esteem.

A family is a place where minds come in contact with one another. If these minds love one another , the home will be as beautiful as a flower garden. But if these minds get out of harmony with one another , it is like a storm that plays havoc with the garden.

If discord arises within one’s family, one should not blame others but should examine one’s own mind and follow a right path.

Righteousness is never lost forever unless one casts it away oneself. Righteousness occasionally may seems to disappear but, in fact, it never disappears. When it seems to be disappearing , it is because one is loosing the righteousness of one’s own mind.

Discordant mind often bring disaster. A trifling misunderstanding may be followed by great misfortune. This is specially to be guarded against in family life.

Gide to True way of Living! 4

Gide to True way of Living!

A man should recognize among his acquaintances those with whom he should associate and those with whom he should not.

The one with whom a man should not associate are those who are greedy, clever talkers, flatterers or wasters.

The ones whom he should associate are those who are helpful, who are willing to share happiness as well as sufferings, who give good advice and who have a sympathetic heart.

A true friend the one with whom a man may safely associate, will always stick closely to the right way, will worry secretly about his friends welfare, will console him in misfortune, will offer him a helping hand when he needs it, will keep his secrets, and will always give him good advise.

It is very difficult to find a friend like this, and, therefore, one should try very hard to be a friend like this. As the Sun warms the fruitful earth , so a good friend shines in society because of good deeds.

Gide to True way of Living! Part 3

continuation of Gide to True way of Living!……….

Part 3.

A master in his dealings with a servant should observe five things: He should assign work that is suitable for servant’s abilities, give him proper compensation, care for him when he is in ill health, share pleasant things with him, and give him needed rest.

A servant should observe five things : He should get up in the morning before his master and go to bed after him , should always be honest , take pains to do his work well, and try not to bring discredit to his master’s name. If these rules are observed , there will be peace and no controversy between master and servant.

A disciple of Buddha should see to it that his family observes the teachings of Buddha. They should cherish respect and consideration for their Buddhist teacher , should treat him with courtesy, attend to and observe his instructions, and always have and offering for him.
Then the teacher of Buddha’s teaching should rightly understand the teaching, rejecting wrong interpretations, emphasizing the good, and should seek to lead believers along a smooth path. When a family follows this course, keeping the true teaching as its center , it will thrive happily.

A man who bows in the six directions does not do so in order to escape from external misfortunes. He does it in order to be on his guard to prevent evils from arising within his own mind.

Gide to True way of Living! ( 2 )

A pupil should always rise when his teacher enters, wait upon him, follow his instructions well, not neglect an offering for him , and listen respectfully to his teaching. 

At the same time, a teacher should act rightly before a pupil and set a good example for him ; he should correctly pass on to him the teaching he has learned ; he should use good methods and try to prepare the pupil for honers; and he should not forget to protect the pupil from evil in every possible way. If a teacher and his pupil observe these rules, their association will move smoothly. 

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A husband should treat his wife with respect , courtesy and fidelity. He should leave housekeeping to her and sometimes provide for her needs, such as accessories . At the same time, a wife should take pains with the housekeeping, manage the servants wisely, maintain her virtue as a good wife should. She should not waste her husbands income, and should manage the house properly and faithfully. If these rules are followed , a happy home will be maintained and there will arise no quarreling. 

The rules of friendship means there should be a mutual sympathy between friends, each supplying what the other lacks and trying to benefit the other , always using friendly and sincere words. 

One should keep his friend from falling into evil ways, should protect his property and wealth, and should help him in his troubles. If his friend has some misfortune , he should give him a helping hand , even supporting his family, if necessary. In this way , their friendship will be maintained and they will be increasingly happy together. 

to be continued………..